It’s certainly a challenging process to get through, but this too shall pass!
Believe it or not, there are ways to stay motivated while you move forward with your life.
Lack of joy or excitement about things can be a common symptom ofheartbreak.
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So if you’re feeling uninspired, we have some suggestions that might help.
Its understandable that sadness, anger, and lack of motivation may overlap.
Or you start out feeling one thing and it morphs into something else.
Your brain can react to romantic love just as someone who deals with substance abuse reacts to drugs.
Now that youve broken up, youre left without your fix.
Your body and emotions have to readjust to this new normal.
Its common to feel anxiety or like your world has tilted on its side.
Others may feel great exhaustion or sadness.
Whatever your feelings, they are valid and yours.
Remember that youre not trying to push aside these uncomfortable feelings and sensations.
Youre facing them and dealing with them now.
Staying Motivated as You Heal
As your feelings do start to shift, get into productive habits.
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Heartbreak and grief have a life of their own.
It’s like riding the waves: sometimes theyre calm, other times turbulent and everything in between.
So, it makes sense why that feeling of pain and rejection seems like its living in your body.
Some people recovering from the loss of a romantic partner get very stressed and it affects their heart.
They get shortness of breath, pain in their chest and feel like theyre having a heart attack.
Their heart muscles truly weaken.
This is called “broken heart syndrome.”
Its also known asstress-induced cardiomyopathyor takotsubo cardiomyopathy.About 90% of those who suffer from stress induced cardiomyopathy are women.
Researchers reviewed 235,463 documented cases of broken heart syndrome reported on between 2006 and 2017.
But after heartbreak, many arenot sure if theyre grieving or depressed.
Mild or moderate depressionmight appear after you and your significant other decide to go your separate ways.
Signs of mild or moderate depression include irritability, difficulty in concentrating and a blue kind of mood.
Its OK to feel depressed as you work your way through the heartbreak.
When people experience a stressful life event, depression may be likely to follow.
The good news is this condition is reversible.
Most people are easily treated and recover in a matter of weeks.
Sometimes the middle is messy and your emotions might not follow a straight line.
You might feel better one day and go backwards the next.
Again, its all OK.
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