At a Glance
Sexual fantasies are both normal and common.
Common Sexual Fantasies
Sexual fantasies can be separated into two categories: typical or atypical.
Typical Sexual Fantasies
Typical sexual fantasies are generally considered “normal” or healthy.
Verywell / Alex Dos Diaz
The study also found that most participants reported fantasizing about being in a consensually non-monogamous relationship.
According to this study, the changes that people tend to make are different based on gender andsexual orientation.
Here’s what it found:
What Do Sexual Fantasies Mean?
So, what do your specific sexual fantasies say about you?
The images that you find arousing can provide insight about your personality, attachment style, and cultural identity.
If you fantasize about changing your body and personality, you may be moreneurotic.
He speculates that people with an anxious attachment style use their fantasies to avoid worrying about rejection.
Conversely, those with an avoidant attachment style use their fantasies to create more emotional distance.
Culture
Finally, fantasies clearly say something about culture.
Men were more likely to enhance their genitals in their fantasies.
All of these are clear reactions to cultural body ideals.
Lehmiller notes that not all of the changes that we make to ourselves in sexual fantasies have deeper meanings.
Sexual fantasies can play a positive role in people’s lives.
Such fantasies don’t mean anything of deeper significance.
Since they’re fantasies, we often create idealized versions of ourselves.
Sexual fantasies serve a variety of purposes.
They can help people become aroused or more sexually confident.
In some instances, unmet needs may contribute to sexual fantasies.
Communication is critical, and that includes before, during, and after.
Do some research, set some ground rules, and go slow.
Remember that just because you have a fantasy about something doesn’t mean you should act on it.
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