Contra-dating is a new term used to describe dating people who are different from who you normally go for.
If we meet a person with only some of them, it might not add up to relationship material.
She gives the example of “situationships.
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“A lack of commitment, emotional depth, and long-term potential often characterizes situationships.”
Additionally, ourattachment stylecan majorly impact who we find ourselves attracted to.
This pattern can limit our ability to have healthy relationships.”
if you’re choosing partners based on only physical attributes, that can also be extremely limiting.
Take note of who you’re usually attracted to, and of how they make you feel.
She suggests we “focus on self-improvement, including working on your emotions and feelings and practicing mindfulness.”
She recommendsjournalingand suggests we keep track of our emotions, state of mind,meditation, and other practices.
Dmitrieva says that by doing this, we can actually change who we are attracted to.
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