It sucks but weve all been there.
As a relationship coach, Ive heard it all.
Lack of Physical Attraction
Chemistry.
ByLorena /Stocksy
That’s usually when it falls down to.
Sounds quite sciencey but it’s true!
Research shows our instantaneous initial impressions are surprisingly intuitive and often predict compatibility.
In one study, researchers showed participants images of their potential dating partners before a speed-dating event.
People often have specific, nebulous preferencesphysicality, age, hair color, voice tone.
Even energy or the ~vibe~ can influence their level of attraction.
Unfortunately, you cant fully gauge chemistry until you meet someone in person and feel that inexplicablewhooshof sexual thrill.
If a second date didnt happen and it took you by surprise, resist the urge to personalize.
External factors beyond your control are a common reason why second dates dont happen.
Falling for someone is easier than being emotionally ready for a relationship.
Timing matters as much as chemistry.
Not the Right Fit
You might have mentioned a strong political view they disagreed with.
Or, you shared your dreams of living overseas while theyre tethered to their home.
Perhaps, theyre looking for a casual hookup and you want a serious relationship.
Incompatible values make it challenging to progress and see a future together.
After all, a partner represents your beliefs, goals, and path.
Sometimes, when a second date doesnt happen, there’s no particular reason beyond a missing connection.
You deserve to find someone who wants you for who you are, just like they do.
Its not a reflection of your worth.
During that time, were busy presenting our best selves while masking our true thoughts to impress a stranger.
Its kind to have an honest conversation but some people prefer to fade away andghost to avoid awkwardness.
These dynamics can make it challenging to express those ambiguous emotions.
This avoidance is rooted in the fear of hurting someones feelings or just not having time for it.
A Good First Date vs. A Bad First Date
Not sure if the first sign went well?
It takes effort from both to explore potential, just as it takes two for a relationship.
And remember: rejection is redirection.
(2019, August 5).Where do our sexual attractions come from?Sex and Psychology.
