If you’re close to your parents, you want their approval of your marriage.
In other cases, dislike might stem from personality differences.
But it can also result from dysfunctional family relationships.
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Poor parental boundaries might also contribute to their disapproval of your relationship.
In such cases, creating and enforcing clear boundaries may help.
Here are a few tactics you might venture to help you parents feel more comfortable with your partner.
Calmly and respectfully allow them to voice their objections.
You may that your parents haven’t had a chance to get to know your partner.
Or maybe their opposition is based on a misunderstanding.
Conversely, there’s also the possibility that your parents have a legitimate issue.
Maybe your partner hascheated on youin the past or has been toocontrollingor demanding.
You may not like what your parents say about your significant other.
Their advice comes from a place of love and protection.
Look for and encourage such opportunities.
Invite them out to dinner or to a religious service or sporting event.
A counselor can also help facilitate the forming of a new family structure that includes your spouse.
Don’t ignore second thoughts.
Be assured that it’s less traumatic to call off a wedding than it is to get a divorce.
It’s important that their disapproval doesn’t become a wedge between you and your spouse.
But don’t allow your spouse to distance you from your parents.
You may choose to attend functions and events alone (or with your children) for protect your spouse.
But if your partner isolates you from friends and family, that is a red flag in your marriage.
If this happens, consider seeing amarriage counselor.
Don’t permit the conflict to escalate to the point of destroying your relationship with your parents.
Realize that holding grudges and anger can harm your own health as well.
A Word From Verywell
A parent who disapproves of your partner choice is not a new concept.
It is, however, a painful one.
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