“I’m looking for a man in finance.
Blue eyes…”
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Whats your jot down?
I ask all of my matchmaking clients this question.
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Whatever we like, the answer isnt always as straightforward as it seems.
Appearance, personality, and family values also factor into the equation.
Over time, our bang out forms into a mold in which we judge potential partners and gaugecompatibility.
In a world filled with billions of people and infinite possibilities, we have to narrow the field.
These early impressions form the foundation of our North Staran inner compass that guides us to find our person.
Attachment stylesare part of the foundation of who we gravitate to.
The mediaobjectifies these one-note caricatures, putting them on a pedestal.
People tend to be intensely attracted to characteristics theyre familiar with or believe will complete them.
As a matchmaker who has worked with thousands of singles, Ive observed an interesting pattern come up.
People tend to be intensely attracted to characteristics theyre familiar with or believe will complete them.
), the preferences limit us.
We may miss out on deeper, stimulating connections that enable us to find wholeness.
Dating appshave become a dehumanizing game where we only accept dates with similar profiles.
Eventually, we run out of matches and experience burnout believing no one is out there.
In fact, its more common thatdoesnthappen.
By looking past superficial qualities, they found something much more thanfantasy fulfillment.
Takeaways
Dating what we know feels natural.
However, these preferences can keep us cycling through the same types without much change.
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