However, its important to remember that there isnt a right thing to say in such a situation.
Everyone processeslossdifferently and there isnt a one-size-fits-all script that will support each person.
Its important to remember that there isnt a right thing to say in such a situation.
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Express Your Condolences
Acknowledge the persons loss and express your condolences.
Show Them You Care
Reach out to the person and let them know you care.
you’ve got the option to simply say I care about you and Im here for you.
you might even show them you care without words.
Another way to show them you care is to participate in the grief rituals.
For instance, you could attend the funeral or wake to support the person and show them you care.
Offer Your Help
Griefcan often feel isolating and overwhelming.
It can be helpful to offer your support, so the person feels less alone.
They may accept your support, or they may decline it.
Listen If They Want to Talk
Ask the person if they would like to talk.
Listen to what they have to say with compassion andempathy.
Avoid interrupting them or trying to give them unwanted advice.
Letting them express themselves can help them process their grief.
Don’t take interactions personally when someone is experiencing grief.
Be forgiving and provide grace and understanding, says Francis.
Give Them Time
Remember that the grieving process takes time.
Check in with them regularly and offer your help and support so the person knows they can count you.
They may also benefit from joining asupport groupof people who are living with grief.
If the person expresses suicidal thoughts and youre worried for their safety, urge them to seek help immediately.
For more mental health resources, see ourNational Helpline Database.
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