“you’re able to always retry,” they are told.
There often isnt a space where they can grieve; the grieving process is frequently silent and unsupported.
Miscarriageswhich are defined as a loss within the first 20 weeks of pregnancyare common.
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About 10% to 20% of pregnancies result in a miscarriage.
If you are dealing with grief following a miscarriage, remember that these feelings are normal.
Allow yourself to feel your emotions and consider finding ways to memorialize your loss.
Also, don’t be afraid to reach out for extra support.
Therapy and support groups can be a big source of advice and comfort during this time.
An early miscarriage can feel like a profound loss.
Common Symptoms of Miscarriage Grief
Everyone’s experiences are different.
There is also no timetable for grief.
Here are some other common thoughts and experiences you might have while grieving your miscarriage.
You May Blame Yourself
Many people who experience a miscarriage are quick to blame themselves.
Most miscarriages happen as a result of genetic abnormalities.You did nothing wrong.
Its also common for you to feel different from day to day as you are grieving.
Again, there is no one right away for you to experience grief after a miscarriage.
Your Changing Hormones Are Contributing
Miscarriage is certainly an emotional experience.
As the months go on, and your due date passes, you may also feel emotionally triggered.
Communicating how you are feeling, and asking them to share their own feelings, can be very helpful.
Here are some things to keep in mind as you begin to heal from your loss.
They may think you are overreacting if you are grieving hard.
Unfortunately, its been a cultural norm for all too long not to discuss miscarriage grief.
This is far from the truth, though.
But the best way to cope with your feelings is to move through them.
Trying to deny them, push them away, or run from them will usually only make them worse.
Remember, too, that sadness is not the only emotion you may feel.
Guilt, anger, shock, andemotional numbnessare common as well.
Memorialize Your Loss
Many people find it healing to memorialize their pregnancy in some way.
You may also choose to gather with a few loved ones to have a grieving ceremony.
When Should You retry?
Most doctors will recommend trying again after youve had one normal menstrual cycle after your miscarriage.
This usually occurs about 4 to 6 weeks after youve miscarried.
But others will want to wait longer.
Its also normal if you feel especially anxious about experiencing another miscarriage if you hit it one more time.
Most people experience healthy pregnancies after miscarriage.
But it’s understandable that you would feel worried.
Some people will find that level of support adequate, but others will need more extensive support.
Its important to know that you arent alone, you arent overreacting, and that your feelings are valid.
you’ve got the option to find many helpful and thriving miscarriage support groups online.
you’re able to ask your healthcare provider for a referral for an in person miscarriage support group.
Takeaways
Grieving after a miscarriage is not a linear process.
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