Dealing with an upset, yet uncommunicative partner can be very discouraging.
An example is if your partner turns down a cuddle session before you sleep.
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One is simply that they’re not ready to open up.
Ely adds that, for some people, it may be difficult to share what’s on their minds.
“Some peopleavoid conflict at all costsand never speak up when upset,” she says.
All conflict is not bad.
“Partners who intentionally shut down and refuse tocommunicate can make the relationshipa living hell,” she says.
But responding this way can only worsen relations between the both of you.
This can be achieved in the following ways.
Sommersuggests doing things a little differently.
Its important to keep this in mind when trying to learn what may be the issue with your partner.
It can be hard to temper the emotions and communicate clearly.
Encourage your partner to take the time they need to process, if that helps.
“Upsets and disputes are part ofa healthy relationship.
The key is to have these disputes in a respectful and loving manner.
While petty spats and quarrels are routine, Mark takes a slightly different approach.
In instances such as these, its important to prioritize happiness in your relationship.
To get around this, its important to be mindful of their feelings.
Ease into conversations that make them feel comfortable to share their pain.
Don’t forget to look after your own wants and needs in the relationship.
And iftheir words or actions are consistently hurtful or harmful, it may be time to consider other options.
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