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Everyone wants to feel like their significant other appreciates them.
When your partner doesnt acknowledge your efforts or makes you feel taken for granted, feeling undervalued is upsetting.
One expectation in a relationship is to feel supported.
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Thats a valid and reasonableexpectation.
You want to feel that in any circumstance, your partner has your back.
Rather than feelingsador rejected, see if you are experiencing the following as part of your romantic relationship.
Less involvement by men in these chores did increase stress, the domestic workload on women and marital conflict.
Appreciation is critical in a relationship so you feel comfortable and safe.
Otherwise, lack of appreciation could cause these outcomes.
you’re able to put the relationship into a downward spiral.
Or you pull away and youblameyourself for the problems in the relationship.
Resentment
Before long, you mighthold a grudge.
If youre filled with bitterness, youre stillruminatingabout the negative situation.
Emotional Damage
You dont want to be in aone-sided relationshipwhere your significant other doesnt appreciate you.
But if you withdraw emotionally and isolate yourself, you might develop a sense ofworthlessness.
The emotional damage has negatively impacted you and compromised the relationship.
Bring up your feelings of being unappreciated and actively listen to their response.
Maybe there is something going on that you didnt know about.
Dont forget to pay attention to thenonverbal communication.
Are you responding by rolling your eyes and shrugging your shoulders?
Talk about the problem with your partner calmly and honestly.
They could be very small actions like kissing you good morning or thanking you for doing the dishes.
Model appreciation
Maybe neither one of you is appreciating the other.
Re-focus on the positive things your partner is doing.
Express gratitude
Gratitude strengthens and enhances our relationships.Also,gratitude makes you happier.
When you appreciate, you acknowledge or recognize something.
When you show gratitude, youre in affective mode and you feel thankful.
Look objectively and evaluate
Maybe your partner shows you his appreciation in actions not in words.
What is your ownmotivationfor giving?
Is it for recognition or because you feel like you owe your partner?
Once you objectively evaluate the situation, you might realize that you havent been very appreciative either.
Get into the right mindset and give yourself self-care.
You might choose to establish some new boundaries and prioritize yourself a little more.
Online therapy is another way to benefit from counseling in the comfort of your own home.
Being counseled virtually can save you time in driving to appointments and also save you money.
Couples counseling can help you reclaim your relationship.
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