When you get married, you not only marry your spouse, but you also marry their family.
It’s pretty common to butt heads with your in-laws from time to time.
However, research has shown that discordant relationships with in-laws can increase a couple’s risk for divorce.
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But just because you don’t see eye-to-eye with yourmother-in-lawor father-in-law doesn’t mean that your marriage is doomed.
Talking to your partner, avoiding conversation killers, and having good boundaries are a few effective strategies.
Finding ways to accept them for who they are and not taking things personally can also help.
Communicate With Your Partner
The first step is totalk to your spouseabout your concerns.
Whether it’spolitics, religion, or yourparenting style, it’s best to avoid these topics altogether.
If you have disagreements, venture to discuss them in acalm and respectful way.
And avoid openly criticizing themthis will only make things worse.
And don’t be afraid to stick to your gunseven if it means saying “no” to them.
But it’s importantnot to take things personally.
This can be tough when it sometimes feels like what they are saying is specifically aimed at you.
But it’s important to remember that they may not be intentionally trying to hurt you.
If nothing else, remember that they’re just human like everyone else.
So instead, focus on accepting them and building a relationship with them that works for both of you.
Cherish these moments and bethankful for them.
But if you canfind activities that you both enjoy, it can help build a stronger bond between you.
This could be anything from going for walks to playing cards to watching a movie together.
Start with short visits andgradually increase the amount of timeyou spend together.
This will help you get used to their company and build a stronger relationship over time.
Ask them about their life, their interests, and their opinions on various topics.
This could be a friend or a relative who is one step removed from the situation.
They’ll be able to offer you support and guidance without any bias.
This could be through writing, artistic expression, or other forms of self-expression.
Be Patient
Building a strong relationship with your in-laws takes time and patience.
It won’t happen overnight, so don’t expect it to.
Be patient and understanding, and eventually, you’ll be able to develop astrong bond with them.
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