At a Glance
It isn’t uncommon for couples to drift apart in long-term relationships.
Couples therapy can also help couples improve communication and overcome problems.
However, its important to check that this is aconversation and not a confrontation.
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Make it clear that you arent blaming your partner for what is happening.
You might start the conversation by talking about what you are feeling.
Focus on using"I feel" statements.
It can be particularly challenging for couples who struggle with finding ahealthy work-life balance.
Look for ways that you’re able to show care and support for one another.
Research suggests thathaving fun in a relationshipis a key factor determining marital satisfaction.
Finding ways to reconnect canstrengthen your relationshipand increase your well-being.
If the disconnect persists despite your efforts, consider trying couples counseling.
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