Yet we frequently encounter people who dont play by these rules.
Inconsiderate behavior is all around us.
Its frustrating, to say the least, when people put themselves ahead of others.
In interactions with strangers, rude behavior can put us in a bad mood or even ruin our day.
And among friends or family members, inconsiderate actions can gradually poison relationships.
If youre currently dealing with an inconsiderate person, it probably wont be the last time.
What Is Inconsiderate Behavior?
At its roots, the word inconsiderate simply means not considering something.
In the context of relationships, this means not considering how our actions impact other people.
What Makes People Inconsiderate?
Ever been left scratching your head about someones rude behavior, wondering why they did something?
Understanding the factors that contribute to inconsiderateness might help you approach the situation with curiosity and even compassion.
For many people, a tendency toward selfishness is learned in childhood.
Survivors of abuse may develop unhealthy coping mechanisms, making it challenging to be considerate of others.
And sometimes, Jambazian says, inconsiderateness boils down to simple insecurity.
The answer may depend on the relationship.
Try these expert-approved tactics with both strangers and those close to you.
No need to comment, remark, or reply, she says.
As thousands of road rage videos prove, engaging with a stranger often doesnt yield a positive outcome.
Jambazian recommends approaching the subject with honesty and a calm demeanor.
Do not react instead respond, she says.
For example, I hear you or I feel disrespected when you use those words.
In some cases, the other person may not have realized how their actions affected you.
When someone consistently exhibits selfishness, look for the why behind their actions.
Using empathy is one way to understand someones reason for being inconsiderate, Jambazian says.
If its appropriate, share with them that you understand where theyre coming from.
This display of compassion could go a long way.
Set Some Boundaries
Sometimes the best way to deal with inconsiderate people is to create some space.
Communicate these boundaries clearly.
Be firm in your responses and your needs, Jambazian encourages.
If inconsiderateness persists, it may be time to evaluate whether the relationship is worth continuing.
Take the High Road
Someone elses rudeness isnt worth sacrificing your own integrity.
Your example may prompt them toward better behavior.
Remember, you cannot control the behavior or reactions of others; you only have control over yourself.
The Takeaway
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