Learn about this harmful form of psychological manipulation
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What Is Triangulation?
In psychology, triangulation is a term used to describe when a person uses threats of exclusion or manipulation.
Its goal is to divide and conquer.
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A form of manipulation, triangulation involves the use of indirect communication, often behind someone’s back.
Keep reading to learn more.
Triangulation is a method used by selfish individuals to comfort and protect their egos.
This competitive or “win-lose” attitude can occasionally turn malicious.
How Do People With NPD Use Triangulation?
How Do People With BPD Use Triangulation?
People with borderline personality disorder focus on receiving reassurance that they are loved to avoid feelings of abandonment.
They may use triangulation to manipulate someone to feel jealous to prove their love and commitment to them.
Triangulation in Relationships
Triangulation can come in various dynamics.
First, let’s take a look at how triangulation shows up in family dynamics and romantic relationships.
The golden child is idealized and can do no wrong.
The scapegoat, however, is devalued and can only do wrong.
In the family variant of triangulation,splittingand projection also occur.
The person who isidealized or devaluedis entirely subjective and depends on the manipulator.
However, by doing so, you allow the perpetrator to win.
This bang out of partnership can temporarily alleviate the stress of the situation.
Over time, it creates a messy situation that will often lead to even more hurt feelings or misunderstandings.
Remember, nobody can make you feel bad about yourself without your permission.
They can help you navigate your relationships involving triangulation.
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