You wake up feeling hurt, confused, and more than a little pissed off.
Youre wondering what the dream means and whether your partner is actually cheating on you.
Youre torn between snuggling up to them and kicking them out of bed.
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Objectively, you know that it was just a dream.
Subjectively, it’s a whole different story.
You wonder if your subconscious mind might know something that you don’t…yet.
Dont worry, youre not alone.
Research shows us that 20% to 30% of alldreamsfeature our partners in some way.
At a Glance
Dreaming of your partner cheating on you’re able to be pretty awful.
Does it mean theyre actually cheating on you?
Either way, the dream could be a sign of something that needs to be addressed in your relationship.
Well, that depends.
“These dreams come from a deep-seated sense of low self-esteem,” explains Lyon.
Below, we explore the possible interpretations of cheating dreams.
It could be something like your partner’s work, hobbies, or travel, says Loewenberg.
However, its important to pinpoint who is letting the ex influence your relationship, says Loewenberg.
“Is your partner still in contact with the ex?
Or are you the one constantly comparing yourself to the ex?”
Ourdreamsoften reflect our waking lives in metaphorical ways.
Then, figure out whether theres a common thread between any of those things and your partner.
It can even be something that they have no idea you have a problem with."
This communicates deep feelings of being undervalued, neglected, and struggling with feeling worthy."
Confronting your partner with unwarranted accusations won’t help your relationshipor help you feel more secure.
Instead, it may be helpful to address these issues with your partner.
Talk about your concerns or fears about your relationship, but avoid lobbing allegations ofinfidelity.
you’ve got the option to also reach out to a mental healthcare provider if you need support.
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