What Are the Signs and Characteristics of Disorganized Attachment?
Someone with a disorganized attachment style does both.
They craveintimacyand are viscerally terrified of it at the same time.
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Its the back and forth between the two extremes that is the telltale sign.
What Causes Disorganized Attachment Style?
Disorganized attachment is believed to be a result of extremechildhood trauma.
Neglect or abandonment can also be traumatic but are more likely to result in anxious or avoidant attachment styles.
Despite that fear, the child is often still dependent on this attachment figure.
Over time, they get used to close relationships feeling unsafe and unstable.
What Does Disorganized Attachment Look Like in a Relationship?
Here are some of the most important steps you might take.
Professional training and insight from atherapistcan help you navigate this painful and overwhelming process safely.
Keeping ajournalis a helpful starting point because it gives you control of the process.
Practice Self-Compassion
Disorganized attachment tends to come with a lot ofnegative self-talk.
You might feel like youre unlovable or that you dont deserve a healthy, loving relationship.
One way to start healing is to counter those negative thoughts withcompassion.
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