What Are Attachment Styles?
It also impacts the way we view and interpret our relationships, and ultimately affectsintimacy dynamics.
What Makes Someone Avoidant?
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In other words, the personavoidsgetting too close to someone else.
D., a psychologist who specializes in attachment theory.
Being mindful of the signs of avoidant attachment outlined above is one step.
you’re able to also take a look at your past relationships and intimacy patterns for more insight.
Its important to do what I call a relationship inventory, says Dr. Anderson.
For example, you would want to ask yourself, why are all of my relationships ending?
and Am I able to express myself openly, honestly and directly in my relationships?
These individuals compulsively distance themselves when they feel intimacy forming, notes Dr. Anderson.
From here, they can begin to identify and redirectdamaging behavior patterns.
Here are some ways to effectively manage a relationship with avoidant attachment.
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