Or do you feel as though bad things keep happening to you no matter what you do?
People with a victim mentality feel as though bad things keep happening and the world is against them.
In addition, you might take thingspersonallyeven when they are not directed at you.
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You might think thoughts like, What did I do to deserve this?
You might also feelresentfula lot of the time.
You might even question why you continue to behave in this way.
The truth is that there are probably some secondary benefits of refusing to change your victim mindset.
You might be gaining sympathy or attention for your distress from what happened to you.
You might feel relieved that others are offering you help orvalidation.
You also probably dont ever want to feel vulnerable again, and so its easier not to take risks.
Find out which option is the best for you.
Understanding the Victim Mentality
Taking a step back, what exactly is a victim mentality?
Is a Victim Mindset Permanent?
One of the most common signs of a victim mentality is continuedself sabotageand negative thinking.
At one time you were likely a victim, but you dont have to continue on being a victim.
Yes, your rights were violated and you didnt deserve what happened to you.
You deserve empathy and compassionand understanding.
Signs of a Victim Mentality
What are some signs of a victim mentality?
It refers to the types of actions that people with a victim mentality tend to engage in.
What are the behaviors that people with a victim mentality tend to engage in?
Here are some of the attitudes to watch out for.
Below are the most common beliefs you might hold if you have this throw in of mindset.
In a way, this is very much a mindset of learned helplessness.
Causes of a Victim Mentality
What causes someone to have a victim mentality?
Common causes can include:
What personality disorder plays the victim?
Outcomes of a Victim Mentality
What are some of the outcomes of having a victim mentality?
However, this is only because there is a lot going on beneath the surface.
The truth is that there can be a lot of secondary benefits that can result from a victim mindset.
Below are some of the reasons why deep down you dont want to change.
If you struggled with trauma, then you have a genuine reason to feel like a victim.
Nothing can take that away from you.
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