This switch may occur when the person with BPD perceives that their emotional needs arent being adequately met.
What Is a BPD Favorite Person?
Why do people with BPD have a favorite person?
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This means they consider this person as a trusted friend, confidant, and counselor all wrapped in one.
Dr. Robertsnotes that the person with BPD demonstrates an anxious-preoccupied attachment style.
Understandably, this can be demanding and isolating to a favorite person and is indicative of an unhealthy attachment.
A person with BPD may adopt the preferred preferences of their favorite person.
These changes are made to match with, or perhaps forge a closer bond with the favorite person.
This change in the person with BPD is usually an emotional response.
They may fear thatabandonment by their favorite personis imminent and will choose to push them away instead.
Recap
How do you know if someone is your favorite person in BPD?
Maurya highlights signs that you might be someone’s favorite person below.
At the first sign of annoyance, the favorite person may feel pressured to lighten their disposition.
They may also find that they are relieved when the person with BPD reaches out in good spirits.
You Feel Admired and Needed
A person with BPD considers their favorite person to be above wrong.
This will prevent manipulation into a longstanding and unhealthy situation with a person with BPD.
If you have BPD and are in need ofmental health support, help is available to you.
For more mental health resources, see ourNational Helpline Database.
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