But these understandable and relatively short-lived feelings ofshameare very different from toxic shame.
Read on to learn more about toxic shame, its causes, and what to do about it.
This is how toxic shame begins.
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Those around you teach you that you shouldhate yourself, and so you do.
It is this dramatic and inordinate reaction that signifies toxic shame.
For example, things like your their inner dialogue, boundaries, communication, and distress tolerance.
Avoiding things that create shame can make someone with toxic shame isolate.
Its also important to acknowledge your feelings and thoughts of shame and insecurity.
Allow yourself to feel these things rather than trying to block them out or ignore them.
Then, you’re able to work on finding a way out.
Acknowledgment of your feelings goes hand in hand with self-compassion.
Be patient and understanding with yourselfthese feelings will not go away overnight.
Its ok to struggle, because toxic shame can be incredibly difficult to tackle.
Dont judge yourself for not overcoming it right away.
Chances are they do not feel the same way about you as you do about yourself.
Support groups can also be helpful.
Be compassionate with yourself.
Be prepared to work hard as you face your issues and combat your toxic shame.
