For many men, the expectations of manhood are instilled at an early age.

Expectations of masculinity may come from parents, teachers, and peers.

While the intent is usually without malice, these sentiments plant a seed of social misalignment.

The men who genuinely internalize the idea of a traditionally masculine expectation can face some troubling issues.

They recognize the toxic effects that these toxic expectations can have and work hard to change them.

When Does Masculinity Become Toxic?

Masculinity, like any social concept, is not easily defined.

Manhood as a practice is different across time, cultures, and individuals.

Although, in almost every way, the attributes expected of men are socially constructed.

The American Psychological Association refers to this as masculinity ideology.

But, it doesnt have to be this way.

Generally, emotionalvulnerabilityis seen as a weakness and avoided at all costs.

Especially in a medical professional’s office, being open to expressing emotions is vital for treatment.

He discusses how this basic level of communication is necessary for us to relieve stress and express our sadness.

The pressure from toxic masculinity to avoid being open to help has real implications beyond social stigma.

However, this does not have to be the case.

Men do not have to be destined to feelings of insecurity for seeking help or expressing emotions.

The goal of changing this idea will not be done quickly, but there is work being done.

What Is Changing?

In the mounting changes of the past year, one of them is the increased visibility of vulnerability.

Most recently, the Olympics have opened the gates for discussions of mental health at the highest athletic levels.

Although not competing, Michael Phelps has taken the opportunity to be more open about his struggle with depression.

Men who have internalized masculine ideology can feel anxious, depressed, and upset when these ideas are challenged.

For more mental health resources, see ourNational Helpline Database.

American Psychological Association.APA guidelines for psychological practice with boys and men.

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