One day you are married; the next, you are single, alone, and grieving.
At a Glance
Losing a spouse is a heartbreaking experience.
It’s vital to find ways to manage the pain and take care of yourself as you grieve.
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Over time, thegriefwill likely subside, and you will build a new life for yourself.
In the meantime, here are some tips to help you cope.
You might evenfeel angryat your spouse for leaving you.
You may cry a lot, or you may not.
How you grieve is unique to you.
Often, well-meaning people are uncomfortable talking about death, but it doesn’t mean they don’t care.
If you could, tell those close to you what you need (or don’t need).
You may have no appetite or have trouble sleeping.
venture to avoid drowning your sorrows by drinking excessively, as that can actually exacerbate your pain.
Taking care of your physical health in the months after your loss is essential.
You may be inclined to turn inward orwithdraw socially.
Resist the urge to seclude yourself.
For more mental health resources, see ourNational Helpline Database.
Numerousbereavementgroups are available online as well.
Adjust Your Social Life
Navigating your social life as a single person can be complicated.
You may feel awkward going to parties and other events solo.
However, being single can also provide a welcome opportunity toseek out new friends.
Consider volunteering or taking a class to motivate you to get out of the house and pursue something meaningful.
Seek Help for Complicated Grief
Losing a spouse is life-changing and profound grief is a normal reaction.
This is known as “complicated grief,” and it affects an estimated 7% of bereaved people.
You may find thatgrief counselingorbereavement therapycan help you cope with the pain and challenges of losing your spouse.
It is very hard to lose a spouse.
Grieving takes time and is different for everyone.
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