We call it being considerate, but is it?
The truth is, its probably emotional monitoring.
And if you don’t know what that is, weve got you!
Delmaine Donson / Verywell Mind
This behavior can be mentally and emotionally exhausting, saysEmily Mashburn, LMHC, a therapist at ADHDAdvisor.
It can be as harmful to us as it is to our relationships.
If you’re ready to break this unhealthy habit but don’t know how, read on.
It often starts out subtle at first and builds up over time.
The pleaser carefully monitors their partners reactions, trying to fix problems by getting them what they want…
Anything to make the bad emotion go away, whether it is anger, sadness, or fear.
It can take a toll on you, your partner, and the relationship.
It’s definitely worth the effort.
Takeaways
Emotional monitoring, while often unintentional, can lead totoxicrelationship dynamics.
Letting go of this behavior is crucial for building healthier, more balanced relationships.
2020 Aug;88(4):748-761. doi:10.1111/jopy.12523
