Social comparison gains momentum in elementary school when kids follow fads.
People who have higher self-esteem and fewer stressors in their lives tend to fare better with social comparisons.
They also might be less inclined to compare themselves to other people altogether.
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Comparisons Create So Much Stress
Social comparison comes in many forms.
From the high achievers to those looking for friends and fun, we tend to compare.
Social media takes social comparison to a whole new level.
We compare our regular lives with other peoples curated best memories.
We can minimize these tendencies and counteract them with a little effort so we feelless stressedby them.
The first step, however, is being aware of social comparison in ourselves and in others.
Is Comparing Yourself to Other People Always a Bad Thing?
While a little surprising, therecanbe a positive aspect to competitiveness and social comparison.
(This is particularly true if they share the secrets of their success).
The main difference between friendly competition and the competition of frenemies is the supportiveness factor.
Frenemies seem to delight in one-upmanship and the failure of others.
without adding the element of competitiveness to your own relationships.
This can be agroup of friendswho share a common goal.
you could start an exercise group or another group built around a goal thats either formal or informal.
Find an Accountability Partner
you might also find an accountability partner to keep each other motivated.
If youre feeling envious of someone elses victory, remind yourself of your own triumphs and strengths.
This also helps you to stay focused on your own life and not the lives of others.
See what small things you’re free to do for your friends and strangers.
Be your best self and you wont feel as prone to compare.
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