5 neurodivergent people share their advice for navigating a neurotypical world.
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Social skills are the skills we use to communicate with other people.
This includes both verbal andnonverbal communication.
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Some have communication andsocial skillsthat are not valued in neurotypical society.
Some struggle with social interaction even with neurotype peers.
Most neurodivergent people have some combination of these.
Appropriate support depends on the individuals skills, needs and personal goals and values.
Several neurodivergent individuals shared their experience and advice for socialization and communication in a neurotypical world.
Rejis (it/its) is autistic and struggles withauditory processing.
Knowing its needs has allowed Rejis to connect and socialize in ways that works best for it.
… Understanding that Im autistic has provided context and self-understanding.
Rejis shared that it prefers to socialize online both for communication and avoiding overstimulation.
If you interrupt conversations, apologize and bring the conversation back around to what the person was saying.
Boundaries
Unfortunately, many neurodivergent people are told their needs are wrong or invalid.
Because of this, it can be difficult toset boundariesor feel like your boundaries are valid.
It takes practice to get better at enforcing your boundaries, but with practice, it gets easier!
Body Language
Neurodivergent people often interpretbody languagedifferently than neurotypical people.
Monica Fay shared it has helped to find patterns in behavior to fill in gaps in her social skills.
Ask for clarification if needed, and share your communication style.
I’ve often experienced others assuming ill intent in my words that doesn’t exist.
And while it is helpful, educating people about yourself and your needs can be exhausting.
If you are neurotypical and you have neurodivergent friends, remember they are not a monolith and stay flexible.
What one person may find supportive, someone else could find unhelpful or annoying.
Inclusive Communities and Activities
Many social environments neurotypical people enjoy are challenging or impossible for neurodivergent people.
This means that many typical social events, like parties, bars, music festivals, etc.
aren’t enjoyable for [her], and are actually deeply distressing and dysregulating.
She says she prefers Quality time, just talking with a friend about their life and interests.
Monica Fay shared that it helps when others assume competence.
You know what helps?
Putting them in the same spot every time!
I know that already.
According to Gabriella, it is also important to Find your people.
They may not be the same age as you, and thats okay!
… Also remember that other people can be awkward too, its not just you!
Here are some ways to foster a supportive and affirming social environment.
Above all, be kind to yourself.
Neurodivergence can come with challenges, but it is not a moral failing or indication of lower personal worth.
In Monica Fays words, There will always be people who cannot handle your personality.
Dont focus on them.
You are enough as yourself.
