MM shared how her room would become a complete disaster soon after tidying up despite her best efforts.
How Can I Change My Relationship with Cleaning?
You deserve aliving spacethat works for you, a space that is healthy and functional.
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It can be difficult to re-imagine what this looks like and change your mindset about cleaning.
Learn what you need and want from your space, and set your standards there.
Recognize that it is okay toask for and receive help.
Having clean laundry delivered and folded every week helps!
If something works well for someone else but not for you, that is okay.
Trunks and suitcases keep their clothing off of the floor without the scraping and jamming that comes with drawers.
They also look to other people for cues about what needs to be done most urgently.
But then I would be burnt out and only clean maybe a quarter of what I intended.
Thanks to this reframing, MM has been able to keep her bedroom clean for more than two months.
Thats when I binge clean at 3:00 a.m.
But then I would be burnt out and only clean maybe a quarter of what I intended.
Many standards we have for cleanliness are based onneurotypicalstandards, needs, and skill sets.
If you are neurodivergent, you may struggle to meet these expectations, which can cause feelings of shame.
