How to follow-up without looking clingy or desperate
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So, you sent atext.
It’s fine, no worries.
Its only been…checks time…three hours and five minutes.
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Now youre stuck in the ultimate dilemma: Should you send a follow-up?
Or should you give a shot to play it cool?
Will a double text make you look eager?Clingy?
Or worse, desperate?
We know the feeling, weve definitely been there.
What Is Double Texting, Exactly?
Its the digital equivalent of saying Hey… you there?
when someone leaves us hanging.
We double text for a lot of reasons.
While some are totally valid, others are driven purely by anxiety.
Some of the reasons for double texting might include:
When Is Double Texting Appropriate?
Double texting is totally fine in certain situationsits all about context, timing, and tone.
The key is not to overdo itone follow-up is usually enough.
If they still dont reply, it might be best to leave it alone.
When to Avoid Double Texting?
Double texting isnt always a great ideasometimes, it can come off as pushy or even a little needy.
How to Double Text Considerately
Double texting can be totally fine if its done considerately.
The key is to read the situation, give the person space, and choose your words wisely.
If youre double texting out of excitement or practicality, go for it!
But if its driven byinsecurityor a need for validation, it might be worth taking a step back.
If someone wants to reply to your original message, they will.
And if they dont, you have your answer.
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