Plenty of our favorite fictional couples certainly started out as office flirtations or coworker crushes.
Some workplaces even have strict guidelines prohibiting office romances.
Keep reading to learn more about some of the dos and don’ts of dating a coworker.
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There are plenty of great reasons why people decide that dating in the workplace is worthwhile.
Your initial romantic first impressions can be good predictors of how successful a relationship might be.
Because you work together, you also have a well of shared experiences to draw you together.
But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t seriously consider some of the risks of dating a colleague.
You’re interested and they’re interested, so whats stopping you?
“I know it sounds corny, but…my biggest piece of advice isread the handbook!
Always check to find out the official policy before starting a relationship to avoid possible repercussions.
Being in the dark about these policies can lead to problems if you decide to pursue the relationship.
It’s important to note that employers should utilize special discretion forLGBTQIA+workplace relationships.
Sexual Harassment and Discrimination
Workplace dating isn’t illegalbutsexual harassmentanddiscriminationare.
But it’s that potential risk of harassment accusations and lawsuits that concern employers.
Plus, there is the worry of any potential legal ramifications they may face if the relationship turns sour.
Rushing into a romance with someone at work can be a recipe for disaster.
Don’t let love (or lust) cloud your judgment.
Talking it out and making a plan is the best way to avoid problems.
Maintaining Professionalism
In addition to taking it slow, it is essential to set some ground rules.
Maintaining professionalism is key.
That means establishing and maintaining someclear boundariesbetween your personal and professional lives.
Skip the Office PDA
Keep it strictly professional in the workplace.
That means no public displays of affection or discussions of personal matters while at work.
(And lay off any pet names when you’re at work).
Remember that your relationship may affect others in the workplace.
Be respectful of your colleagues' boundaries and avoid making them uncomfortable.
Keep Firm Boundaries
Create a clear separation between your careers and your personal lives.
That means not talking about your personal life at work and vice versa.
Strong boundaries can minimize the risk of any conflicts of interest arising that might jeopardize your job or relationship.
Plus, it helps support ahealthier work-life balance.
Don’t Show Favoritism
Be cautious about treating your partner and coworkers equally.
Circumvent the issue by being fair and equitable to everyone.
Focus on your work, and don’t let any personal drama lead to disruptions in the workplace.
While you might be tempted to avoid (or seek out) your ex at work, don’t.
Legal Considerations
There are a number of legal considerations to keep in mind before dating a coworker.
That includes the often subtle ways that people may feel pressured into a relationship with a coworker.
This puts the organization at risk of lawsuits due to sexual harassment creating a hostile work environment.
Such perceptions can lead to office gossip and undermine a person’s professional accomplishments.
Neither of you should be pressured or obligated to say yes to a date.
see to it the other person feels safe and able to turn you down if they are not interested.
Consider talking to a good friend, career expert, mental health professional, or even a lawyer.
Research suggests that how people take advice about workplace romances depends significantly on the advice itself.
We know relationships can sometimes lead to changes in work dynamics or end unexpectedly.
Be prepared to navigate these changes professionally,” she explains.
They can help you work on establishing and maintainingboundaries.
Does the other person welcome this interest?
Do they feel safe turning you down?
Also, consider what it might mean for your career and mental health.
Could dating your coworker harm your career?
Will it make it more challenging to interact with your colleagues?
And how will you respond if the relationship doesn’t work out?
Love can be found in many places, and plenty of people have found lasting love with a colleague.
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