Couples also face challenges of emotional bonding andkeeping intimacy alivethroughout their relationship.
Sometimes, its beneficial for couples to separate while theyre deciding what step to take next in their marriage.
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Living apart while going torelationship counselingcan be beneficial for some couples as they are working on their relationship.
Part of that work is distancing themselves from any unhealthy patterns that they engaged in while living together.
Often, the best time to ask is when you believe thatcounseling could help your relationship.
So, how do you ask your partner to go to counseling with you?
Keep in mind that fear is what most often stops people from starting counseling.
The key factor to consider is whether someones training specifically is related to marriage and relationship counseling.
Find out which option is the best for you.
The first few sessions you have with a therapist will be spent talking about yourself and your relationship.
You each may discuss your childhood, family, work, and past relationships.
Your therapist will ask you both a lot of questions.
Be an active listener as you answer them.
As your sessions continue, you will work together with your therapist to address specific aspects of your relationship.
You and your partner will have your own goals as individuals and those you want to work on together.
One area you may need to focus on, for example, is communication.
You will periodically reassess with your therapist as counseling progresses.
If you and your partner are currently separated, relationship counseling may offer hope for reconnection.
A skilled therapist, for example, will identify power struggles and defuse tensions.
Summary
Couples who are separated or considering it are under a great deal of stress.
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