The holidays are a time of many gatherings.

Meanwhile, reuniting with friends and family after a difficult two years is becoming a closer reality for many.

If you are socially anxious, the thought of attending these events may fill you with dread.

“Social anxietyis more than just being shy or nervous around people.

It’s a real condition that can cause significant distress,” says clinical psychologistDr.

Dr. Nathan Brandon

Social anxiety is more than just being shy or nervous around people.

It’s a real condition that can cause significant distress.

And Brandon notes that thepandemichas only worsened things for those struggling with social anxiety.

“The pandemic has only exacerbated social anxiety for many people,” he says.

Or, you may be experiencing social anxiety for the first time."

Instead, focus on attending gatherings that will give you a chance torebuild confidence.

“Make a plan ahead of time.

Decide who you’re going to see, when, and for how long,” says Brandon.

It can also be helpful to have an escape plan in place in case you start to feel overwhelmed.

see to it to get enough sleep, exercise regularly, and eat a healthy diet.

It’s also important to find ways to cope with your anxiety in a healthy manner.

This might include talking to atherapist or counselor, attending asupport group, orjournaling about your thoughts and feelings.

“This undercurrent of tension or awkwardness could heighten social anxiety for some people.”

That’s OKand it’s perfectly normal.

The important thing is to be patient and understanding as you reconnect with people during this time.

For example, if someone is social distancing or not hugging, try not to take it personally.

Most likely, their actions have nothing to do with you.

However, there are ways to make the experience less daunting and more enjoyable.

Nobody will be offended, and you’ll be better off in the long run.

“Its OK to say no if you dont want to do something or you need a break.

“For example: Ill stay for an hour and then leave.

Choose goals that are realistic and attainable for you.

Its also best not to over-schedule yourself,” Brandon says.

Its likely that someone else at the event will be able to relate,” says Napolitano.

Focus on Acceptance

“Everyone has an occasional slip-up and no one is perfect.

This can help you to feel more relaxed and less anxious.

There are plenty of ways to stay connected all year round that will make future gatherings less anxiety-inducing.

Reach out and let people know that you’re thinking of themit’ll make all the difference.

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Published 2020 Aug 10. doi:10.1186/s12906-020-03038-8