I’ve asked myself this question many times, and I’m sure you have too.
Let’s find out.
The Importance of Understanding Your Feelings
First step: identify your feelings.
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Look, we’ve all felt theinstant giddinessand excitement over getting to know someone new.
But take a step backstop romanticizing!and identify your feelings.
Understanding how you feel is helpful in any context but is especially crucial in romantic relationships.
Plus, having clarity on your feelings is kind of cool and empowering.
It allows you to believe in yourself and makeconfident decisions.
What Does It Mean to Really Like Someone?
Crushes are a dime a dozen.
But do you like any of themor the image of them in your head?
This indicates the relationship is built more on fantasy and projection than on two actual humans.
It’s not for the weak!
And while loneliness is not inherently negative, it can make us delusional in romantic relationships.
It’s a complicated emotion that takes away our clarity.
At other times, loneliness is heavier when connected to achildhood trigger.
Naturally, it’s hard to determine if loneliness or another difficult emotion influences your dating decisions.
But that’s where introspection comes in.
Withers recommends digging a bit deeper to understand whats going on.
Do you have an urgency to partner up with someone?
And, if so, why is that?
What’s missing from your life that youneeda partner to feel complete?
Take time to do some self-work and get to the root.
Only then, you’ll find success in a meaningful relationship.
What to Do If Youre Still Unsure
Oprah once famously said, I dont know meansno.
AKA, if you’re feelingehabout them, chances are you’re not interested.
If youre not sure if youre into someone, youre probably not, Holz says.
Keep exploring, but give yourself a datesay, two weeks or a monthto sift through your feelings.
If things still feel uncertain, thats your sign to move on and find your perfect match.
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