A diagnosis requires that the person meet at least 2 of the 11diagnostic criteriawithin a 12-month period.
Spotting AUD in its early stages can be tricky.
If you’re asking, “Is my boyfriend/girlfriend an alcoholic?”
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you’ve probably noticed one or moreworrisome behaviorsor intuitively picked up on a subtle clue.
This article reviews 10 signs of alcohol use disorder to watch for in someone you’re dating.
Early Signs of AUD
AUD is a progressive diseasethat develops over time.
Contrary to stereotypes, the signs can be subtle.
Here’s what to look for if you’re questioning whether your significant other is developing alcohol use disorder.
They might see an occasional movie with you, but they’d suggest going to a bar afterward.
They need increasingly more alcohol to make them feel the way one or two drinks used to.
A quiet, reserved person, for example, might become confrontational or verbally abusive.
Someone who usually doesn’t express their feelings might become overly emotional after drinking.
They believe they need a drink to unwind, relax, and improve their mood.
They might tell you they’re going to drink one or two but usually end up having more.
The types and brands may change, but the drinking will not stop.
Frequently, a person with AUD will swear off alcohol givennegative repercussionsbut ultimately will be unable to stop.
They’re Resourceful
Alcohol shuffles the person’s priorities.
For example, they might not have enough money for a dinner date but somehow manage to buy alcohol.
Remember that AUD is a disease, not a moral failing.
Although you cannot directly change another person’s behavior, youcancontrol your own attitude and actions.
For example, caring but firmboundariescan be difficult but can help you maintain your own mental health.
Such groups sometimes offer support groups for friends and family, as well, such asAl-Anon.
There, you’ll find others who are going through similar experiences.
For more mental health resources, see ourNational Helpline Database.
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