But what if your partner is usually reliable?
What if they regret cheating and promise to be faithful?
What if you’re convinced that the two of you do love one another?
Verywell / Laura Porter
Everyone has their line in the sandthe one thing that is a deal-breaker.
Only you know what that line in the sand is for you.
Ask yourself important questions about what it means for your relationship and how you might best move foreward.
Certain conditions, including couples therapy, may be a condition of staying together.
But, both of you have to realize that your relationship will never be the same.
you’ve got the option to’t just pretend like nothing ever happened if you want anything to change.
You both have a lot of hard work to do to make the relationship successful.
Here are some important questions to ask yourself.
Answering these questions honestly can help you decide if you should give your partner a second chance.
Look over your answers.
Are they mostly positive?
Or, are there areas that are cause for concern?
They need to understand that there will be no more chances if they cheat again.
Meanwhile, thepartner who cheatedmust be willing to explain why they cheated.
They also must be apologetic and honest, and they must keep their promises.
They also need to recognize that there will be questions about their commitment.
Consequently, they may need to agree toset healthy boundariesaround their future behaviors.
For a long time, you may worry and wonder whether or not they will cheat again.
If these red flags are apparent in your situation, consider seeking individual counseling before making any lasting decisions.
Your first priority should be to take care of yourself and then evaluate your relationship.
Take your time processing what has happened to you.
But that is a far cry from the truth.
Your self-worth should not be tied to your partner’s views of you.
What’s more, your partner is responsible for the cheating.
You did not cause it.
Cheating was a choice your partner made alone and must accept responsibility for.
It is vital that you pay close attention to how your partner responds to getting caught.
Are they sorry they got caught?
Or, are they sorry for the pain they caused you?
There is a big difference.
Takeaway
No one can tell you what to do when your partner has cheated.
Talking to a therapist or counselor can help you make the choice that is right for you.
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