More friends, more problems?
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Better health, astronger support system, and more memories with the people you love.
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But in reality, personalities can clash and awkward silence can ensue.
I do believe mixing friend groups can work.
But it depends on the crowd.
Knowing we have people who care about us can reduce stress and loneliness.
They play a significant role in shaping oursense of identity.
Being part of a group also fulfills a fundamental human need for connection.
It reminds us that were not alone in this world.
When theres a theme to focus on, it takes the pressure off.
Common activities can serve as neutral ground where people can bond without pressure, Maenpaa says.
It really depends on what you feel most comfortable with.
What matters is that you make everyone feel as included as possible."
Highlight the unique strengths each person brings to the group, Maenpaa says.
Set Realistic Expectations
Pay attention to how people interact, Maenpaa recommends.
This helps respect everyones sovereignty and avoid disappointment.
If someone seems left out or uncomfortable, gently bring them into the conversation or activity.
Plus, your community feels more communal.
As you expand to a bigger group, emotional support broadens and there are more perspectives to consider.
If one friend is sick, another friend can show up with soup.
We don’t have to go at it alone anymore.
Address the issue calmly and compassionately, Maenpaa says.
Encourage them to listen actively to the concerns and viewpoints without rushing to judgment.
This can foster empathy and mutual understanding.
Sometimes, simply naming the problem can help the group move forward.
Accept It
Just because you love them doesnt mean they have to love each other.
Let go of any pressure and allow them to connect on their terms.
This will promotehealthy communicationand respect at the bare minimum.
If you force it, they may feel resentful.
Mix Groups Consciously
Reflect on the last get-together.
Maybe the vibe was off because the setting wasnt right or certain personalities didnt get along.
Smaller, more intimate gatherings might work better than large group activities, Maenpaa says.
Not every friend group will come together perfectly, and thats okay.
Its natural for some people to connect more deeply than others.
Focus on nurturing the connections that do work.
Strengthen Your Friendship
Friendships aren’t zero-sum.
A growing community is like an ever-expanding ecosystem where connection is compounded.
When you feel threatened, that’s an important insecurity to acknowledge.
At the same time, I also really enjoy one-on-one parameters where each connection can flourish.
Quality matters more than quantity, and that principle applies to mixing friend groups.
Trust what feels right for you and your friends, and let the connections unfold naturally.
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