Why Getting Back With an Ex Never Works
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Thinking about getting back together with an ex-flame?
Let’s pump the brakes before making any big decisions.
That partner who dumped you could still be the same person.
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The reasons you broke up with them may still hold true.
Or we may simply be thinking about reconciling for the wrong reasons.
As time passes, we likely find ways to get over that person andfinally acceptit wasnt working.
Or we realize both people need to want the relationship.
If your ex cut it off or you ended the relationship, both of you werent all in.
Despite those reasons, you may be second-guessing yourself.
Its possibleyou think youre still in lovewith your ex and are ruminating over the breakup.
You saw your ex, remembered the fun times, and now see the relationship through rose-colored glasses.
4 Reasons Why Reuniting Might Be a Mistake
Couples split up for a reason.
Some people confuse missing someone with wanting toget back together.
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But because you remained suspicious even after the incident and never trusted your ex again, you grew apart.
You couldnt share your own worries or fears; you couldnt open up and bevulnerablewith them.
Whilecouples can rebuild trust in their relationships, true intimacy needs trust as its foundation.
You want to be with a partner who isempathetic, someone you trust who also trusts you.
Problems With Communication
Communication fosters connection.
Scientists have gone one step further.
Lack of Friendship
A good friend accepts us for who we are.
They offer affection and trust.
Friends enjoy being together.
If you didnt have a friendship with your ex, something important was missing.
According toThe Gottman Institute, friendship is key to the vitality of a long-term relationship.
LGBTQ+ participants had even higher rates offriends-first beginningsthan those in heterosexual relationships.
However, the sample of LGBTQ+ participants was also smaller in these studies.
Heres a list of questions to ask yourself about your previous relationship.
Take a moment to sit down and answer each question truthfully.
Chances are that they didnt.
You deserve to be ina healthy relationshipthat consists of trust, affection, good communication, and intimacy.
You might not actually want to get back with your ex.
Maybe youre just feeling lonely.
There are ways to stay inspired after heartbreak.
Qualified therapists can help you cope with difficult emotions and build your resilience.
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