Self-deprecation is a form of self-talk that reflects a cognitive state, such as low self-esteem or negative self-regard.
Self-deprecatingstatements tend to play us down to peers, loved ones, and colleagues, but for what purpose?
This article discusses why we engage in acts that appear to beself-sabotagingand how self-deprecation affects our well-being.
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Why Do We Self-Deprecate?
Signs of Self-Deprecation
Let’s take a look at some common indicators of self-deprecating language and behavior.
To avoid appearing conceited, self-deprecation will often cause a swift rebuttal to different forms of flattery.
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You Instinctively Downplay Yourself
In certain situations, self-deprecation becomes almost second nature.
The moment you receive any praise for it, the kneejerk reaction is to downplay your efforts.
Being the regular butt of jokes and constantly putting oneself down in front of others can becomeinternalized attacks.
Where this happens,self-esteem and self-perception may suffer.
Doing that to yourself is likely to produce the same effect.
By constantly giving yourself this treatment, your mental health is at risk of being affected.
In particular, engaging in self-deprecating humor has been linked to serious conditions like depression and anxiety.
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Through self-deprecation, joy can be zapped out of every opportunitymajor or minor, that comes your way.
This act is known to cause a depreciation in optimism in people who practice it.
This balance may be achieved by using the following methods outlined below.
“Accepting praise, especially where deserved, is a trait you should get comfortable with.
Understandably, it may be a big change for you.
This change will be a certified step in the right direction for your happiness and well-being.
This act may also be useful in noting your assumptions of yourself.
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