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For some people, their marriage is a source of joy and happiness.
For others, the relationship they have with their spouse brings about feelings of emotional hurt and pain.
Communicating how you feel canmake your relationship better.
In some cases, a professional may be needed to assist with this process.
Unintentional Hurts
What hurts one person emotionally won’t necessarily hurt another.
Still, some partners do decide to call it quits.
For many, divorce is a result of issues that build up over time.
Then, something happens that pushes them to decide that the marriage is over.
When these hurts (and their subsequent impacts) are not addressed, it can lead to divorce.
When you don’texpress your feelings, the hurt can continue to grow.
Yet, being able to express negative emotions is associated with better relationship outcomes.
Specifically, it is linked to eliciting more support and a heightened sense of closeness and intimacy.
What is your partner doing (or not doing) that is hurting you emotionally?
Once you identify the reasons behind your hurt, talk about them with your partner.
During this conversation, hold each other’s hands.
The jot down of therapy that offers the best results can vary depending on the issues at hand.
Find out which option is the best for you.
A Word From Verywell
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