We all know someone like thatand may sometimes wish we were more like them.
So What Is Rizz, Exactly?
Rizz is a popular dating term that gained popularity on TikTok via Gen Z.
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Its technically short for charisma, but it goes further than just your standard definition of the term.
And its not just because of their physical appearancerizz is all about earning genuine interest via pure personality.
However, women and queer folks can certainly have rizz as wellit really comes down to confidence.
Its now a steadfast fixture among Gen Z.
Some rizz is spoken and other people have unspoken rizz, says psychologistMichele Goldman, PsyD.
And then there are the related terms in the TikTok lexicon.
A balanced combination of both and you might just be irresistible.
What Does It Mean to Rizz Someone Up?
Heres how you’re free to refine your rizz.
This makes you more visible, and it buildsself-confidenceand rizz.
When you might, grab onto a shared interest and connect on it.
This leads to a more natural back-and-forth conversation, instead of one person doing more of the work.
It also reduces anxiety when there’s common ground.
Increase Eye Contact and Smile
Increase eye contact and be open withbody language.
This communicates they are a priority, despite other distractions.
Research has also found that smiling can make others perceive you as more attractive, trustworthy, and intelligent.
It also conveys a sense of openness and happiness.
Tammy Shaklee, relationship expert and matchmaker
Kind is the number one quality most singles are seeking.
Kind is the number one quality most singles are seeking, Shaklee says.
Be that person, or make a plan to work on it if you are not.
Use Humor
Humor is a great way to earn positive attention or curb any awkward tension.
Be Candid
If youre vibing with the other person, let them know with compliments and affirmations.
This is a gentle way of expressing interest without coming on too strong.
There is a balance you want to find with rizz, Goldman says.
You dont want to be over the top.
That said, while having rizz matters, it is most important to have rizz that matches your personality.
True rizz happens when youre confident in yourself and are connecting authentically.
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