To quote one of my favorite art prints from Radical Emprints,grief is a wild sea.
Are Small Affirmations Useful?
I think that we live in a world that really loves to simplify and oversimplify.
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So that we can master something so that we can know what the outcome is going to be?
So that we feel like we know everything?
Unfortunately, that’s just not true.
So, in the interest of brevity and levity, here are some tips.
Julie, LCSW, is a family therapist.
David, JD, her husband of almost forty years, is a divorce lawyer.
Together, theyve written multiple books, have created a podcast, and provide coaching.
So the three Cs aren’t foolproof but they help a lot."
Give up trying to win, whose version is the truth?
There is no truth, there’s just two stories…Shift away from trying to argue your reality.
That, ultimately, is the only way to work out the kinks.
And in doing that, we learn about ourselves.
And I think that’s just such a beautiful image…If it’s all just smooth surfaces.
How do we grow?
It’s okay that we are human.
I do think it’s crucial that you acknowledge it, though.
It doesn’t mean walking away pretending the argument didn’t happen.
I’m really tired.
Can we revisit this tomorrow?
That’s a teachable skill.
It’s a great skill to have.
And I think one that contributes to a long-lasting, sound, good marriage.
That’s a teachable skill.
But I have faced now that I can do it.
‘That gets someone’s attention, then it isn’t about You’re an idiot for forgetting things.’
It’s like, oh, this person thinks I don’t care about them or think about them.
But we need to feel that and sometimes we get insecure about that.
And that’s what can come out in these conflicts.
Keep in Mind
Relationship advicecomes in many shapes and sizes.
