Sometimes, they’re just not easy to express.
Youmight be angryand start sputtering.
Or maybe you feel so overwhelmed that you are entirely speechless.
Verywell / Nusha Ashjaee
The words are thereyou just can’t find them when you’re overcome with strong emotions.
It happens to the best of us but can become a serious detriment inmarriagesandrelationshipswhere communicating your feelings is critical.
In such situations, being direct can often be the most effective.
For example, you might simply say, “I am really upset about this!”
The term “anger” covers a wide scale.
Need a simple, powerful way to calm down fast?
When You’re Feeling Confused
There are plenty of times you might feel confused about your relationship.
Did she just say what you think she said?
Did she mean it the way it sounded?
You’re probably:
Consider saying, “I’m confused about what you are saying.
Could you explain that a little more so I can understand?”
We need totalk."
Consider saying something like, “I’m really concerned about this” or “What’s this about?
I’m feeling very terrified right now.”
If the two of you are recovering from a bad spell, you might feelencouragedoroptimistic.
Consider saying something like, “I’m so excited that you made plans for us tonight!”
or “I’m so pleased that you thought about me!”
When You’re Hurt
Hurt covers a spectrum ofemotions, too.
When your spouse says or does something to hurt you, your feelings can execute the gamut fromdiscontenttodevastation.
It’swhyyou feel lonelyin this situation and what happened to cause your feeling that matters.
This jot down of positive feedback can help strengthen and deepen thetrustandintimacyof your relationship.
When You’re Overwhelmed
Feeling overwhelmedcan be good or bad.
I’m feeling so overwhelmed, but in a good way!"
I’m so horrified!"
They might forget an important event or say something hurtful.
Poetry and prose are replete with words to describe sadness.
We’ve all been there, opening our mouths or taking some action that we instantlyregret.
You probably feel:
Youmaybe even feel all these things at once when you’ve hurt someone you love.
In this case, say something such as “I know you are upset and disappointed.
I’m so sorry about what happened.”
Can we take a break and come back to it later?"
When You’re Feeling Understood
Emotional validationis an essential part of a good relationship.
When You’re Unsure
To some extent, these words can go hand-in-hand with confusion.
Your spouse has said or done something that you’re trying to decipher and figure out.
From there, you’re free to decide how to respond.
You’re probably feeling:
Say something such as “I’m torn about this.
Can you explain more to reassure me?”
Over time, it will get easier to discuss your emotions.
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