But it’s also true.
What Is Relationship Counseling?
People in healthy, happy relationships can still benefit from counseling that strengthens communication and connection.
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But that is often too little, too late.
Relationship therapy should begin as soon as the problems get in the way of your daily life.
Counselors can help you become better communicators, develop strong relationship skills, and improve your familys happiness.
Keep in mind thatthe average couple waits six yearsbefore seeking therapy.
Instead, it’s best to acknowledge problems early and seek therapy as soon as possible.
you’re able to even seek outonline relationship counselingif that is more convenient for you and your partner.
Take advantage of the free consultation that many therapists offer for potential new clients.
This is a great time to see if the particular counselor suits your needs, style, and budget.
Therapist-client relationships can affect your life in many profound ways, and you should choose wisely.
Your therapist will possibly want to spend some time talking to everyone together and to each member separately.
The most studied style of relationship therapy isemotionally focused therapy (EFT).
EFT is based onattachment theoryand aims to foster healthy interdependency between members of the couple or family.
Other types of relationship therapy includeImago therapyand the Gottman method.
Be Honest
Don’t lie to your therapist.
Sometimes we lie because we don’t want to be judged.
However, your therapist’s job is not to judge you but to help you.
Stay honest, even when it’s hard.
Your therapist is there to help but ultimately is it up to you to do the work.
It’s going to take time and effort, but remember that it is worth it.
Don’t expect the therapist to be a wizard who’s going to make all your problems disappear.
Consult early, engage honestly in the process, and do the work.
So what can you do in this situation?
It is important to remember that you cannot force your partner into counseling.
You might also consider trying online therapy, which can also be highly beneficial.
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