Sadly, toxic relationships are totally different.
In fact, these relationships can be the biggest creators of stress.
Often, toxic relationships (toxic friendships exist too), involve lots of poor communication.
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When communication is less healthy, stress ensues,small problems can become larger problems and resentment can grow.
At a Glance
Bettering our relationships often starts with working on our communication skills.
Implementing healthier communication strategies can improve our relationships and relieve stress.
That feeling not only sucks, but it’s also stressful.
Or, you may just give up and not speak about your stress at all.
Because what’s the use right?
What to Try Instead
We’ve all been bad listeners at one point or another.
But since you’re here reading this article, it’s clear you’re looking to improvekudos to you!
Use active listening strategies like repeating back what you understand of what the other person has said.
Its more than worth the effort.
Passive-Aggressive Communication
This form of communication can show itself in many ways.
Passive aggressiveness can also show itself through constant disagreement over small issues, particularly in front of others.
Also,passive-aggressivenesscan make us upset because it is hard to address.
For instance, it can be easily denied, creating a gaslighting situation.
Being on the receiving end of this kind of pettiness nevereverfeels good.
Again, active listening can help here.
It devalues the other person overtly, leaving people feeling defensive and leaving no veil over the overt conflict.
This is a form ofverbal abuseand is something that no one should ever tolerate in a relationship.
For more mental health resources, see ourNational Helpline Database.
Why Aggressive Communication Can Be So Hurtful and Stressful
It never feels good to be attacked.
Those using aggressive communication tactics are more interested in power and winning rather than coming to an understanding.
This brings the conflict to a new level and makes mutual understanding elusive.
If you’re struggling to communicate in a healthy way, reach out to a mental health professional.
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