The fear of conflict is common, especially among those with social anxiety.
This can also lead topeople-pleasing tendencieswhere you put other people’s feelings above your own.
The idea is not to run out and start an argument with the first stranger you see.
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Eventually, however, you will want to experience those situations in real life.
For example, don’t practice conflict exposures with someone who you fear could become overly agitated or violent.
After all, these types of interactions happen to all of us in some form every day.
Most likely, you would be temporarily bothered but quickly forget about the incident.
You should create your own list that is tailored to your particular fears and anxiety triggers.
Be sure that the list starts with the easiest task and gradually works up to the hardest.
Getting over your fear of conflict with others will take time.
Be sure to stay in the situation and fully experience your anxiety instead of choosing to escape.
Usepositive coping mechanismsto help you through the anxiety.
Unless you remain in the situation until your fear decreases you will not learn thatthere is nothing to fear.
It is important to reach out to your doctor or a mental health professional for a diagnosis and treatment.
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