But why is it often hard to understand and accept others take on the same matters?
What Does The Research Say?
This can lead to beliefs that other people got it wrong.
Verywell / Julie Bang
Lieberman claims naive realism may be the biggest driver of conflict anddistrustbetween people.
Natalie Christine Dattilo, PhD, clinical psychologist and wellness expert, says this notion resonates with her.
She explains that the term gestalt means the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
Liebermans review presents a model of subjective construals that are processed without a lot of effort.
He calls these Coherent Effortless Experiences (CEE).
Experts offer the following tips.
Know youre wired to fill in gaps with biases
Dattilo says there are primal reasons for this.
She suggests practicing mindful listening, which is being fully present during conversations and reserving judgment.
Try listening to understand, not fix.
This is not true listening, says Dattilo.
This helps build both emotional and cognitiveempathy, she says.
Then repeat back what they said so they know you are trying to understand them.
Then, cross out each detail that contains an opinion, either negative or positive.
Next, restate the explanations using only facts.
Ask yourself if there were 100 people here, what could we all agree on?
Youll quickly realize how readily we insert our opinions, biases, and judgments into everyday situations and conversations.
Finding ways to understand others views can help maintain relationships.
Lieberman MD.Seeing minds, matter, and meaning: The CEEing model of pre-reflective subjective construal.Psychol Rev.
2022;129(4):830-872. doi:10.1037/rev0000362
