Just to see what kind of feathers I could ruffle, he says.

But after his injury, the ability to be confident took on entirely new significance.

Carters story is a common one among people Ive spoken to who have been injured over the years.

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Recent research inSexuality and Disabilityconfirms that disabled peopleparticularly young peopleare at a clear disadvantage when it comes to dating.

For many, its in childhood.

I think from just a societal, structural standpoint, literally, services end at a certain age.

Say you’re on adating app, right?

How do I even approach a first date and ensure I have what I need?

Mysexualityis a huge part of my identity.

I’ve always considered myself a very horny person," says Ramsawakh.

We are seen as plot devices, as objects, as solo pity partiers.

Ramsawakh says that this broad brush approach has really led to challenges when relationship building.

Still, Ramsawakh says that understanding disability is part and parcel of building a relationship, romantic or otherwise.

Still, having been burned before, Ramsawakh says that there are still things they are slow to share.

Im very open about being disabled.

is kind of like a game ofvulnerability.