Masturbation is a common and healthy behavior.It can also be a challenging topic to discuss.
You might have troubletalking about sex with your partner, so you feel too embarrassed to bring it up.
For some married couples, the subject may even feel “taboo” to talk about openly.
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Learning the facts about masturbation in marriage is important to addressing any concerns you may have.
A person may also feel differently about masturbation when they are single versus when they are partnered or married.
Here’s the truth: masturbation can be part of ahealthy sex life, even when you are married.
If masturbation is part of your sexuality and sexual expression, it’s important to have the facts.
Some people find that masturbation leads to greater self-discovery.
It can help you learn about what you like and don’t like sexually, for instance.
Masturbating can also help you figure out how you gotta be stimulated to achieve an orgasm.
Understanding your sexual preferences is beneficial to your mutual sexual encounters.
Research has shown that masturbating while you are in a relationship is healthy and can promptmore mutual sexual activity.
Engaging in masturbation with your partner, called mutual masturbation, also has benefits.
According to a study published in 2023, masturbating with your partner can increase your levels of sexual satisfaction.
People often feel better after having gratifying sexwhether solo or mutual.
The topic becomes more complicated by the fact that people in relationships may define masturbation differently.
Partners might have different and even conflicting thoughts about what constitutes masturbation.
To prevent misunderstandings, these definitions should be openly discussed and clarified.
Or the person may be concerned that wanting to masturbate suggests there is something wrong with their marriage.
This includes when someone is using it to avoid their relationship, as a substitute forintimacy with their partner.
This can undermine thetrust in a relationship.
With regard toyourmarriage, it really comes down to personal preference.
What works for one couple might not work in your relationship, and vice versa.
A sex therapist can help partners work through any of these roadblocks and deepen their connection.
Takeaway
Many people masturbateeven when they are in a long-term relationship or are married.
While you might have apprehensions about discussing it with your partner, it can be healthy for your relationship.
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