After all, few relationships are smooth sailing and completely conflict-free 100% of the time.
Eventually, it takes a toll.
Are You in a Healthy Relationship?
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Make a List
Make a list of people in your life.
Below are a number of questions that you might ask yourself to assess the currentquality of your relationship.
Otherwise, cross off the name.
“How much is directly attributed to your relationship and how much may be influenced by external factors?”
If so, seeking therapy may help with the healing of unconscious relationship patterns learned in childhood.
What are the positive effects of not having this person in your life anymore?
Writing these down could help you cope.
Consider writing out all your feelings in a letter.
you might give your letter to the person or throw it away.
Identifying what makes you hesitant can help you identify what’s important.
This process can also help you figure out whether your hesitancy is linked to fear of the unknown.
You may feel guilty forsetting boundarieswith this person.
While totally understandable, permit yourself to free yourself of this guilt.
Kwong says having feelings ofguiltand sadness is a common response when letting go of a relationship.
Remember you are worthy of love, care, consideration, and respect.
Talking to someone, such as a close friend or family member, might be helpful about your struggle.
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Healthy and supportive relationships are worth the time and energy you put into them.
Give them the time and attention that they deserve.
Butdon’t allow themto continue to add stress and negativity to your life.
Reserve your energy for your true friends.
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