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When youre in a relationship with someone, its natural to want to grow in the relationship.
Since the connection is steeped in so much intensity, karmic relationships are not sustainable for a life-long commitment.
What Is a Karmic Relationship?
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Karmic relationships are connections between individuals that are believed to be rooted in past-life experiences.
These relationships often serve as catalysts for personal growth and the resolution of karmic debts or patterns.
While karmic relationships can be admittedly confronting, Sultan points out that theyre also spiritually significant.
From a higher level, your partner reveals wounded parts of yourself that wouldve been otherwise hidden.
Perhaps they bring out your inauthenticity with your true self or repression of anger.
Outside of its spiritual connotation, karmic relationships can have a psychological perspective beyond the immediate physical draw.
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You may meet someone and feel as if you have experienced this moment before, he continues.
You may have sudden strong and intense emotions about the person very quickly.
Because its so intoxicating, the relationship may feel as if its meant to be.
Because there are so many highs and lows interspersed with sometimes toxic behavior, the relationship feels addictive andcodependent.
Each fight feels like a breaking point.
You push each others buttons.
You love them fully but you cant help seeing all of the red flags too.
Miscommunication and the feeling of being unseen constantly plague your relationship.
Repetitive Patterns
A karmic relationship positions you for the ultimate learning experience for healing.
If you cant seem to get past old arguments, this may be indicating something deeper is at play.
The short-term may be painful, but you are acquiring lessons for long-term growth.
Since the relationship is stagnant it tends to repeat the patterns over and over again.
The only way to end the cycle is for you to leave the relationship.
Lessons to Be Learned
When youre together, there are many learnings and lessons that come up.
Essentially you weretwo soulsthat were meant to be.
Every action has an equal but opposite reaction or consequence.
With karmic relationships, its more about learning lessons to transmute your growth into transformation.
So, the connections tend to be dramatic, temporary, and rocky in nature.
Otherwise, you may keep repeating these lessons with different people.
Surak points out karmic relationships serve the purpose of self-improvement.
This punch in of relationship will test you to the ultimate degree by testing your true understanding of love.
To release your karmic debt, the relationship asks you to learn from and take responsibility for your behavior.
Choosing to change enables you to break the cycle.
This awakens your soul to appreciate each other for the lessons.
Then your soul can heal, forgive, ascend, and deepen your true purpose.
Recognizing the Lessons
What does your partner reveal in you?
What does the relationship spark about your fears, traumas, and unhealed areas?
Setting Boundaries
Karmic relationships can be stressful which means settingboundariesis key.
If the turbulence of the relationship becomes too emotionally exhausting, Surak advises leaving the relationship.
However, this tends to be rare.
Embracing Personal Growth
Surak suggests leaning on an established self-care routine and support system during this time.
Keep in Mind
Karmic relationships teach us an intricate lesson about growth.
At the end of the day, a karmic partner is not someone to regret but someone to appreciate.
They serve as a guide to help you realign yourself to the life you are truly meant for.
If you need assistance incorporating the lessons, Surak suggests seeking professional help to process the relationship further.
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