It’s a deeply personal topic that can stir emotions for both partners.
There are many reasons why partners may not share their sexual orientation for many years.
Societal attitudes, religious beliefs, or a fear of rejection are potential reasons.
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Or they might worry about how coming out might affect their children.
In other cases, they may have only recently recognized their own identity.
Sometimes, though not always,infidelityis part of this pattern.
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All of these can and do occur in people who are straight.
They may also feel uncertain about how their sexual identity fits within different contexts of their life.
Recap
Coming out is a difficult process for both partners.
Seeking external support from a therapist and friends can help both spouses determine their next steps forward.
Instead, approach the situation with an open mind and listen to the reasons they offer for their behavior.
Choose the Right Time and Place
Try not to ambush your partner with adifficult conversation.
Be open to the idea of introducing your concerns and then having the conversation later.
This approach can give your spouse enough time to collect their thoughts and return to the conversation calmly.
Maintain Honest Communication
Talk with your partner and express your concerns and fears.
You may have lost the ability to trust your spouse.
And your spouse may not be interested or invested in continuing with the partnership.
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