It’s a hack therapists swear by
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Ah, relationships.
But life is still lifeingkids, bills, in-laws, the list goes on.
All of this will inevitably get in the way of your relationship.
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So, how do you keep the spark alive without ditching your responsibilities?
Enter: the 2-2-2-rule.
Sounds fine and dandy, but is it attainable?
Just the two of you!
So, the 2-2-2 rule won’t magically repair your dwindling connection.
Here’s how to start:
A great first step is planning yourfirst datetogether.
It doesnt have to be elaborate or expensivejust intentional.
ensure you mark it in your calendar, as a commitment that cant be changed.
Arrange a Weekend Getaway
Next, start planning your weekend away.
Does that make a difference in your destination?
Use some alone time to choose where you want to go for your one-week vacation.
And, remember to approach it from a realistic viewpoint.
Is it feasible to go on vacations around tax season if your spouse is a CPA?
Would the start of the school year be a challenging time to get away?
Are rates cheaper to go during the week versus the weekend?
Be mindful of your personal situations and how that can impact your ability to get away.
But don’tletthese personal challenges stop you from implementing the 2-2-2 rule.
Couples who’ve put in the find that the results are worth it.
And don’t just take our word for itthe evidence shows for itself.
Potential Pitfalls
Failure to plan can lead to problems if youre trying to follow the 2-2-2 rule.
Becomingtoo rigidand unyielding is another potential pitfall.
One of you may get sick.
The other may have a true family emergency.
Dont be so rigid and focused on the 2-2-2 timeframe that you begin losing sight of the big picture.
Ive seen couples implement this and end up arguing about whos planning what or where theyre going.
Keeping the end goal in mind will make the effort worthwhile.
It’s important not to make this another item on your to-do list, Brateman explains.
Use your calendars to plan activities together.
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